Being in a long-distance
relationship is not a normal state of affairs, so it needs to be treated with
an unusual viewpoint just like the freak it is. How do you stay close (and get
even closer) when you're so far apart? It's not simple, but it's not impossible
-- and here are three tips can help when your love is halfway across the
planet.
Appreciate your independence
So now you
are leaving to a place without you love. Once the flight takes off, you are on
your own. You may think so in the plane-- You are going to face your own
problems, solve them yourself, cry on your own shoulder (if you are able to),
celebrate all holidays alone, date yourself (how pathetic)…….blah blahh
blahhhh..all the negative thoughts will eat you up like a dinosaur!!!!! Emmm..just for your information, dinosaurs
are no longer in existence. They had become extinct!! So what are you scared
of? An extinct species?? The imaginary dinosaur--negative thoughts in your mind
is actually nothing!! Without him/her by your side physically, is it the end of
the world? NO, of course NOT..So, what can you do is---be a D.I.Y person. Do-It-Yourself.
Appreciate your independence by enjoying your ‘single’ life while in fact you
are already attached. Can’t you see how wonderful it would be? No?? Okay, how
to appreciate your D.I.Y opportunity to the fullest? You can hang out with
friends like nobody’s business, party whole night without a sticky gum
following you, lay back and do your favourite but not his/her stuffs without
any explanations, ease up with no nagging from him/her…basically, you are not
under physical control. Great right?? Got it? Feel free to be yourself
independently despite the physical absence of your partner and I deem you can
make it through easier this way.
Believe
If you are
being pessimistic, then your LDR will definitely be a failure. Yea, I know it
is rough and you have heard about how disastrous LDR is, from many negative
ending cases of your friends or somewhere else. But, think about this. What if
the failure of LDRs is a misconception?? As you know, couples break up for many
reasons, but according Dr. Greg Guldner, director of the Center for the Study
of Long-Distance Relationships, with his 10 years of research on this subject
has shown that distance doesn't seem to be one of them. Yea, surprisingly,
distance itself is not a reason that leads to break-ups. Indeed, couples in
LDRs report the same levels of intimacy , trust, commitment, and satisfaction
as geographically close couples. It's confirmed: Absence really does make the heart
grow fonder. Along with the first tip, enjoy your LDR by sharing interesting
things and ask him/her what he/she is up to. Key point: don’t think too much
and loosen up. Why so?? Dr. Guldner says, by doing so will help in two ways: your
love won't think you're obsessed with the relationship, AND you won't be
obsessed as you believe you’re not. In fact, the happier you act with your
life, the happier you'll actually feel. Thus, be optimistic, BELIEVE and keep
the faith.
Communicate
As I said, misunderstandings occur more frequently in
LDR than any other relationships without doubt. It is hard when you can’t use
the power of touch to feel connected to each other. Let’s take a look at the
main cause of miscommunication in a relationship. It is not what you use to
communicate but is the way you express yourself to your love. You have to find
out how to make your love feel cherished from what you say. Despite time differences or technological
issues, LDRs will very much depend on the power of word. For
instance, “I’m gonna hug you tight now till you’re breathless.” Avoid any IF
words for example, “ If I were there, I would……..” Boom! Saying so is just like
putting the reality right in front of your partner’s face cruelly. I suppose sweet
talk is needed, to distract the fact that physical absence of him/her has
actually made you feel lonely, when you are keeping the faith of “you will be
together when you are together.” So, be sweet to your love whenever you can and
you will taste the sweet too. Besides, mind your word and try to put yourself
in his/her shoes when you say something. It applies to all kinds of
relationship as well. Be considerate and life with him/her will be great ;)
While long-distance
relationships seem to be higher-maintenance than you'd like, they do have their
positives. After all, if your relationship prospers without constant physical,
one-on-one contact, then you may have met your match.
Try the tips like ABC (Appreciate, Believe,
Communicate),
LDRs would be EZ. =)
Here’s a short film to share with yall..They made it
through—in spite of the longest, furthest, non-expirable distance between them.
Is distance still an issue to be concerned of?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQgdxLRk6eY
Cheers,
Charis
OvO
